Finding Your Soul Society
“The soul selects her own Society.” Emily Dickinson
I was deeply moved by listening to this quote from Emily Dickinson on Danielle La Porte’s new podcast, Soul Work. As the words came out of her mouth, I got goosebumps up my arms. This is often a sign for me that what I have heard or experienced is something the deepest part of me believes to be truth. The soul selects her own society.
Deep within my being, I know this to be true because I am fortunate to have a friend who has been with me from the first month of my birth and has been with me every day since. The way that we came to be in each others life is rather bizarre to many but for me, it feels like so many stars aligned in the right way for us to be in each others life this time around.
The story of how we came to be in each others life is likely not of monumental significance but I will give you a short synopsis just so you can see how a “random” occurrence resulted in my soul finding one of the most important soul connections for me in this life.
Finding A Part Of My Soul Society
My mother in her early 30’s returned back home after a challenging relationship that had come to a close out in California. When she arrived back home on the east coast, she was spending time with one of her closest friends, who also happened to be her next door neighbor. These two had seen each other through so much and to this day still live only a few minutes away from each other. She was spending a lot of time with her friend and her friends high school sweetheart, who too this day she is still married to. Her friends husband had a brother whom my mother had a brief encounter with. This encounter led to me. (Do you catch my drift?)
So my mother at the age of 30 welcomed me into this world. At the time on her own. Her close friend was just one month behind her in welcoming her own daughter into this world. Her friends daughter is named Kerrie and we are a month apart. My grandparents lived right next door to my friend growing up and eventually my friend and I would end up in school together. If Kerrie had never come into my life, I am not sure if as a child I would every have really felt accepted for who I truly feel I am.
How I Know It Was A Soul Connection
A soul connection should feel like you are in a circle of love. A place of total acceptance and understanding. It is how you relate to each other.
I can maybe recall one time we truly got upset at one another and I believe it was because I was at the time not in myself and was going through some big life changing events. After a short burst we were able to come back together because we knew, like sisters, our relationship mattered.
Now, we live about a four hour plane ride from one another. We talk maybe once a month and although I’d like it to be more, that’s okay. Just the fact that she is on this earth with me is the comfort I need. When we are together we are immediately taken back to a place of comfort and stillness. It’s like a charging station for our souls.
I know how lucky I am to have this in my life and I hope that you have this as well. We should all strive to find those deeper soul connections around us and be open to uncover our souls society that was put here in this life.
How To Uncover Your Soul Society
Not all of our soul society is discovered from birth or sitting right next door to us. Some of us may pass right by them one day and not see them again the next. Maybe we even discover them very late in our lives or they have passed.To put together that soul society as Emily Dickinson referred to, you need to open up your heart. Shine out who you really are and look to see the beauty in everyone who is around you. I know that this is not always easy. Seriously, I struggle sometimes, especially as today there was another school shooting announced on the news. But maybe if that shooter had a stronger soul society around him, helping nurture him and guide him things would have turned out differently. (Along with a few other things like gun control but let me not get too distracted here…)
Connections matter. To each and every one of us. Someone who is meant to be in your life may not look like you, talk like you or live like you. Do not let that make you miss out on an opportunity to become more connected to another person. Because, in doing so you will be more in connection with yourself. It is about how we relate to each other.
Those souls that are meant to be in your life is something that is not always easy like I described in my example. Sometimes they are there to hold up a mirror for us to see our true selves and really challenge us. It should feel like love.
Welcome into your life those who hold up that mirror and help you grow. Welcome in those who help you feel nurtured or understood. Intentionally nourish those relationships. It takes courage to find and make friends but the rewards are life sustaining.
I am thankful for my tribe. For those souls that surround and lift me. In this time of living in one of the least emotionally connected societies, this matters now more than ever.
Who is in your soul community now and how did you know that it was meant to be?
“Compassion is the medicine to be well and be whole.”- Danielle La Porte